A Beautiful Sight In Sarawak

Ya. This is an Anglican Church at Lutong, Miri, where one of the pastor is my brother in law, married to my sister in law. I was there few months back but I couldn't get the chance to take any picture, as much as I wish too, for unfortunately, my phone was out of battery/power.

When I was there, at the 2nd floor, where their quarter is, I was amazed to see the mosque just next to the church, separated only by a fence. And when they have their prayer, we can hear the 'bang' loud and clear from the church.

But do we complain? No. Never.

The muslims that come and go from the church also do not seems to bother about the church next door. So do the people from the church.

I can bet my whole fortune (which is not much as well..hehe) that if this is to be happens in Peninsula, the extremist NGO's and the politicians there will cry foul over this. I am very sure that they will appear on the news, on facebook and make police report. I am sure that this will be an issue that will be raised in the  parliament. I am sure that politicians will jump from their feet and become hero, saving their people's faith and am sure their religious body will come out with new case and rules.

But here, in Sarawak, the sight is just beautiful. How could a mosque becomes an annoyance to others when it is suppose to do good for the people, and likewise, how could a church becomes a threat to other people that do not believe, when it is just standing there, serving the people?

So, we are unique, we are strong, we are wiser, we are just amazing as Sarawakians. We have our time spends with working and trying to make ends meet. We have no time for hatred when we are so tired providing for our family, what we want is just a harmony with our neighbors regardless of their beliefs and skin color or language.

We are, in a way, much more advanced than certain people from over the sea.

I am a proud Sarawakians. Here where a family is built from Muslims, Christians, Buddhists or pagan. We never feel awkward attending our friends and relatives' wedding or funeral. We do not bother on how or what they eat or wear because what's more important is, we live in peace, we bring a pay cheque home for our family, not whose belief is the truest or whose God is the mightiest. We do not judge and punish just because we think that in our culture or belief, it suppose to be this way or that way.

We leave the rest stay as one's business with one own God God.

We only believe in doing the good, humane things. We believe in equality among mankind and we believe that we will reap whatever we sow today.

Above all, we believe, we are blessed as Sarawakians!

GIRL. BE WISE.

Gosh! It has been more than a year since my last entry. I almost forget my own blog address and had to try several times with my password.  

There was always an idea and several sometimes but I was just so lazy to make the times..hehe..lazy me.

But of course it wasn’t anyone else’s fault but mine. 

Yes, people always said that we have the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 4 weeks a month and 12 months a year and 365 days (to make it fair..hehe) a year. Lucky us..aren’t we, having so much days in our life. But please, these numbers will never apply to you if you are a mother and an employee to an organization as well. 

It is not an excuse but a reality, a fact that people around us tend to ignore. But once you are so use to it, everything become so normal and sometimes, you just telling yourself, what the heck..I am going to be lazy today..

Okay, now that I am talking with keyboard, I just can’t stop myself.

Alright then, actually I just want to talk on some little thing here (at this chance). Last couple of weeks, I always encountered several news about one of our young actress that is now tangle in one controversial affair, involving herself and her married boyfriend and of course the wife. And there are outcries from public on this issue. Surely, I can understand that this thing is such a burden or stressful for the beautiful young lady but one has to remember, you play with the fire, you’ll get your finger burned. 

Well, a media conference had been made, the actress explained her side of the story and the said man too and bla..bla..bla..okay, it is her right to defend herself right.

BUT..to defend yourself with ‘bahan bukti’ /‘evidence’ that proves you are wrong is a very wrong way to defend ourselves. She should has fired her lawyer for letting her having the conference together with that married man. What are they trying to prove anyway? That they are so in love and it is okay to hurt the wife with their action?

Dear…dear…

Admitting to having an affair with a married man, regardless of what date they started it, as long as the man is still legally married is such a foolish thing to do. And still you went for a holiday with him only after 2 months meeting him? Even when you knew that he is a married man? With 2 kids?

Come on girl, you can do better than that.

First, guilty because he is a married man. No matter how broken his marriage is, if he is still legally married, you are the sinner one.  If you can’t help yourself, do not show your affair in public via your instagram and then telling everyone that he is a divorced man. Then you had your photo taken with his children and again, published them publicly.

But I really can’t blame her, maybe she is too young to understand all these. 

Everyone should understand that a respectable man shouldn’t humiliated his wife even though he is not in love with her anymore, If you think that you can’t live with her anymore, divorce her properly. Be responsible. Not by cheating on her just because you think that you will not want her anymore as your wife. What a coward act that is.

Now that the public has pressured them, the actress threatened to sue the wife for telling the media about her own family affair and the man is okay with that. What are you trying to prove anyway, that you are right doing something wrong and yet still blame the victim? 

She really is desperate for support but her way of doing it is totally wrong. 

If she thinks she can sue the wife for talking, maybe she should consult her lawyer first, whether the wife can sue her over anything.  

As a celebrity, she should know what best for her career.  She needs public to support her over her career then she should know not to do anything and let her feeling beat the best out of her. I can’t say that I am agreeing with what she is doing but I do feel sorry for her. Her career has just started but she smears it with that foolish thing she shouldn’t has done.

But it is not too late for her. But first she needs to know that, that man is no good for her.

A man, a gentleman shouldn’t do what he did to his wife. That is number one. A man that hurting his wife and has no shame on his wrong doing Is not fit to be a husband. I will never choose a man that hurts his wife publicly and has no guilty feeling about it. This kind of man will not hesitate to do it again.

But of course, women always get it wrong when relate to men. They think they had found their prince but then, how do you find them, where do you find them, that count more on who they are.

The right man is to be found at the right place.

Well…I just speaking my opinion but of course what matter is how we want to shape our life. Never choose the hard path if you are not sure you are strong enough to go through them. Admitting a mistake is a lot more nobles than refusing to see the mistake and make a good turn of it.

Last but not least, just remember that as a girl, a woman we are the target of public judgment. Most of the times, people seeing us as the sinner not the victim. So take care of ourselves and be wise.

LUNCH WITH GOD

This is Today's Story from GodVine that was emailed to me this very early morning. I like this short meaningful story very much so I decided to post it here so we can always have it whenever we want something good for our soul.

So, enjoy the story and may God bless all good soul...

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with Twinkies and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old man. He was sitting in the park just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to him and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old man looked hungry, so he offered him a Twinkie. He gratefully accepted it and smiled at him. His smile was so pleasant that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered him a root beer. Again, he smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.

As it grew dark, the boy realized how tired he was and got up to leave, but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old man and gave him a hug. He gave him his biggest smile ever.

When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?" He replied, "I had lunch with God." And before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? He's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen."

Meanwhile, the old man, also radiant with joy, returned to his home. His son was stunned by the look of peace on his face and asked, "Dad, what did you do today that made you so happy?" He replied, "I ate Twinkies in the park with God." And before his son responded, he added, "You know, he's much younger than I expected."

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Embrace all equally.

Let people know how important they are. (Have lunch with God!)

NOW OUR DAUGHTER CAN BE RAPE!!

"One more escapes jail"

GEORGE TOWN: Another person has been bound over on a good behaviour bond for statutory rape. This time, it is an electrician found guilty of raping his 12-year-old girlfriend on two occasions last year.

Sessions judge Sitarun Nisa Abdul Aziz ordered Chuah Guan Jiu, now 22, to be bound over for three years on a RM25,000 good behaviour bond.

She said the court took into consideration that Chuah was a young, first time offender.

“We also considered the fact that the sexual act was consensual and that he is a school dropout,” she said when handing down the sentence.

Sitarun Nisa said that another consideration was Chuah’s future.

Chuah, who was wearing a shirt and blue jeans, showed no emotion when the sentence was passed.

The court had on July 20 found him guilty of raping the girl, then aged 12 years and 10 months, at his flat in Air Itam between 7am and 1pm on July 18 last year, and between 2.25pm and 2.45pm the next day.

The offence under Section 376(1) of the Penal Code carries a maximum jail sentence of 20 years and whipping.

On Monday, DPP Lim Cheah Yit said Chuah had coaxed the girl into skipping school and following him back to his flat on the pretext of him being sick.

“They were dating and the accused should have protected her but he took advantage of her instead.

She asked him many times to take her to school but he said he felt unwell and took her to his home,” Lim had said when pressing for a deterrent sentence.

In mitigation, counsel Yusuf Idris said his client earned RM30 a day and was staying with his parents and a younger sibling.

“This is his first offence. He has a fixed job now and many years ahead of him,” he said.

Yusuf said his client had repented and urged the court not to impose a custodial sentence in view of Chuah’s age.

The sentencing came in the wake of the case of former national youth squad bowler Noor Afizal Azizan who was bound over for RM25,000 to be of good behaviour for five years after he pleaded guilty to the statutory rape of a 13-year-old girl.

There was public uproar on Aug 8 when the Court of Appeal allowed Noor Afizal’s appeal against a High Court’s decision to sentence him to five years jail for the offence.

In a written judgment released on Monday, the Court of Appeal said Noor Afizal, who was 19 at the time of the offence, had not been “very much older” than the minor he had consensual sex with, had cooperated with the police, shown remorse, and given a guarantee that he would not commit such an offence again.

**This copy from The Star Online  Wednesday, August 29, 2012

As a citizen, what do you feel? Most importantly as a parent to a daughter or daughters, how do you feel?

Last time I read and understand about it;

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Malaysia

The age of consent for sex in Malaysia is 16 for both sexes.^[43]

Section 375

Rape. A man is said to commit "rape" who, except in the case hereinafter excepted, has sexual intercourse with a woman under circumstances falling under any of the following descriptions: (...) Sixthly – With or without her consent, when she is under sixteen years of age.^[44]

Source : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Asia

So, where is this taking us?

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(1) The judge is a woman. She should understand better how it’s feel as a victim to a sex crime or maybe as a mother. But she let the offender go on the ground that “as a young, first time offender.”

~ok..so do we have to wait until he commit another crime then the law can do something about it? 

What if this happen to her own family member? 

Will she has the same opinion as her judgment on this case? If a judge does not have any gut, why care to be a judge in first place? It is justice in your hand, justice for all of us.

“We also considered the fact that the sexual act was consensual and that he is a school dropout,” she said when handing down the sentence

~ what did they study in their law school anyway? Statutory rape means RAPE WHETHER IT IS CONSENT OR NOT. You can’t say she wanted it too, because sex with a minor is STATUTORY rape. That is why they used the word ‘STATUTORY’.

(2) “another consideration was Chuah’s future.”

- what about the girl’s future? 

What about the parent, the family of the victim’s future? 

So now the law is about the offender future or welfare but not justice for the victim? Is that it? 

Law means to punish and for others lesson out there that IT IS WRONG!

If the judge is so considerate and care for the offender, send him to have treatment. Lock him up in an institution. Let the doctors fix him. Because they are pedophile. 

It is a sickness knowing any girl is so young, a kid but still have the desire to have the sex act with her.

(3) “The offence under Section 376(1) of the Penal Code carries a maximum jail sentence of 20 years and whipping”

- this is no use anymore la..why bother? Sucks!!

(4) “Chuah had coaxed the girl into skipping school and following him back to his flat on the pretext of him being sick.”

- so he planned it! He coaxed her, which was wrong already.

(5) “They were dating and the accused should have protected her but he took advantage of her instead. She asked him many times to take her to school but he said he felt unwell and took her to his home,” Lim had said when pressing for a deterrent sentence.”

- first of all, knowing that the girl is just 12 years old, he SHOULD back away!!

Dating her already was wrong because she is just a child, what’s more having sex with her. 

Wasn’t that made the judge sick already? Thinking that any rational man, have any desire towards a child? 

But who am I to say more? These kind of men will never be educated or have their lesson because every court in Malaysia after this will just let them go. 

Go boy! Make another offence!! Yeah..the court is care for your welfare!!

(6) “In mitigation, counsel Yusuf Idris said his client earned RM30 a day and was staying with his parents and a younger sibling.”

“This is his first offence. He has a fixed job now and many years ahead of him,” he said.”

– well, aren’t lawyer just good!! 

Now, do not bother to report if your child is molested or raped. Because if the man is poor, the court will feel sorry for him. 

If the man is a success man, the court will say that he has a bright future ahead of him. 

If the man is young, the court will give him another chance for he is young, if the man is the first offender, the court will give him another chance to be the second offender then they can charge and punish him, then they can teach him a lesson and educate him that SEX WITH A MINOR IS A CRIME. 

Anyone say anything about the victim? Halloo…anyone is awake here?

So? What that makes us? All pedophiles around the world will come to our country and rape our young girls.

How do you feel?

How do I feel? I feel nauseated…I feel sad..I feel humiliated, offended, even I feel ‘molested’ by these cowards juridical system and the people in it.

WHO CARES ABOUT THE VICTIM ANYWAY? 

They are just stupid girls, a child raved for attention that consent to the act!!

Owh..by the way, I hope the judge can sleep well…