Eliminate UPSR & PMR?

25/06/2010
Friday
2.14pm

hot news for this couple of days..our administrator plan to eliminate these 2 public examination, for what reason, still unclear to us. hmmm...as usual, there is pro and contra of it.

actually i want to wait for response from facebook members but seems not many interested in sharing and talking serious issue like this, i better share here whatever i have. thanks to some, for their strong opinion.

waiting for those so called intelligent people that used to heat up the wall there but none...a little bit dissapointed by this, i still want to speak up my opinion...hahaha..tidak pandai tutup mulut punya orang la..

what to do ley...my mind always full and i hate to see things goes by without sharing it with friends.

first, lets talk about the pro...

(i) maybe those student (our children will be one of them) will eased with the burden, no more pressure for them to attend extra class or tuition in the evening. less tiring for them.

(ii) parents also can relax a little bit, stop pressuring their kids to drained their brain out of their head

(iii) our administrator may be can reduce the cost and make use of the extra cost available for other purposes (mind u, the preparation of all those exam and implemantation does acquire quite a fund)

had i made a few of it? huhuhu..not enough but can't really squeze my mind right now..

lets check the contra..(i got quite a number for this morning only). to tell u the truth i was the only person in the whole day had nodded yes to this issue...hehehe....

(i) as many mentioned earlier in my fb, the quality or standard of our education is becoming lower by the idea only

(ii) some even said, maybe in the future, for there is no valuation, our students will have zero standard and everyone can be graduate easily but please don't forget, SPM is the platform to get a place in our college, not UPSR or PMR

(iii) no competitiveness among students, no target and motivation for them to perform..well i really aware of this because most of our people (through history) always need to be pushed, only then they can move forward

i thinks enough of it....but really most of people do not agree with the idea. i hope no children future will be at stake because some of our politician just want to make a name for themselves..just the same when they withdrawn the using of English in teaching Maths & Science..until now most parent that i'd heard talking about it, felt disappointed by it.

if we are so scared of challenge, of hardwork and new things, how are we going to be a developed country? if our children at the age of 15 still struggling to finish a sentence when asked to read, how are going to compete with the outside world?

we are so scared of trying new things yet we eliminates and destroyed all the old good things..i.e the SRP..well i was the 3rd batch to have the PMR, if i'm not mistaken, but many people said that SRP is more relevant and created more quality student because of the strict regulation..u failed the mandatory subject, u r not qualify to continue until u repeat the class and pass it.

even now, for SPM, the requirement to continue to lower 6 is less competitive..most the student can easily go through and proceed to lower 6 after the SPM. then when they are qualified to study in our public university or college, they were taught in BM, BUT for most of the student themselves experienced, most of the references is in English. maybe when they were out, ok when they joint the government sector for 90% of the works was done in BM BUT again, if u ready to challenge the private sector, there will the problem arise.

enough with that..i am out of the scope already..but really..why do we want to stop our own new generation to be competitive to the outside world? why do we need to overprotecting them? the more we make it easier, the harder it will be for them (our students and younger generation).

but of course, i always curious with the objectives and reasons behind all this. we, the common people will get the impact. the politicians, no wori for them..YB..banyak duit, abis form 5, antar anak pergi kolej swasta, belajar dlm English...hantar anak ke luar negara, semua lebih standard, semua dlm English but our children has no choice but to struggle with the lousy system.

ok..let me share one of the way ( i got this idea from a businessman). if your kids really excell in his/her study, and he/she is interested in continuing to further study, after they finish @ complete their SPM, if they are qualify, get them to study for A level. takes about a year to finish and many private college offer that nowadays. then after the A level, they can directly continue to Degree programme (not sure bout the public university) in any College inside or outside our country..so we can save 2 years for the Diploma programme which can take up to 6-7 years to complete until the Degree course. that is why, our children will only be able to support themselves at the age of 26-27, the earliest. for medic student, you will have to add up to another 2-5 yrs for practical..might be not very correct but i will do some research on this.

feel worry for our kids future, as a mother myself..i hope that instead of lessen the standar, our administrator should set the standard higher so our youngster will be more motivated and competitive. don't teach them to be afraid of difficulty but teach them to overcome it..

::thinking ..thinking and..thinking......::

some of my friends used to tell me that I am a thinker...hmm..at first i thought..what doea a thinker mean?

then i tried to ask someone the question..what is a thinker?

the answer:::: someone who like to think deeply and farer than other is a thinker..normally this kind of person will give themselves a headache..or migrain..just to think of something that some might just took as a rubbish...

well then i sat by myself and thought....wow..did i do that? i mean..really? but did i accomplish anything by doing that too? hmmm....

but one thing i'm very sure about is...from when i was just a kid i always asking myself "why..why and why" silently everytime i saw anything happened...not asking in despair, pardon me..but i always interested in knowing why did something happened that way or why that we have to do that..but of course due to my traditional upringing by my own mother, i shut my mouth (because as kids, we are not allowed to asked too much questions.

then now, when i am a mother, i never stop my children in asking anything...tiring but i like to answer them, explaining things appropriately for their level is a challenge to me..and i love to say.."pandai anak mami" or "clever girl".

my brain like i'd once told a friend of mine, only rest when i was asleep...may be because of that, i prefer books and thriller is my top choice..i love mystery. still remember when i was at primary school, i read all the time..and i think i'd read most of the children mystery fiction at that time. I like most..Nancy Drew mystery..and there was a series of boys mystery too, that i forgot their name.

when i was a little older, my favorite is Sherlock Holmes and Sidney Sheldon...really loves their writing..make my head spinning..hahaha..so happy lol..

the same goes with movies..i always loves thriller but not too extreme..prefer some kind of things that can make me wonder what will happen next...

::holiday season::

thursday
03/06/2010
4pm

holiday..holiday....

"gawai festival"

when i was a little kid, this is the moment that i'd been waiting for..a time to reunite with all those long distance cousins..

we swam in the river...we played in the sand...running all over the "ruai". watching 'inik' making "penyaram"....all those memories flooded back in this holiday season. i used to be a very happy go lucky and bright kid..easy to be friend with anyone (that is why until now i can get along with most of my female cousins both my fathers' and mothers' side).

now it is time for our kids..but sadly, some of the parents never understand the meaning of having their own 'kampung' or village. when i was at school, i was so proud when i shared with friends...i have 'kampung' but some of my friends don't (because parents are too proud to be kampung people).

even when i was working in KL during my teenage time, people never believe if i said that i can very well did all the farming work...'bumai' what we called it. i know how to do the harvest process, the planting process..even i know how did the rubber first look like before we see them in the shop as a rubber shoes or slipers..until now, i always proud of my origin.

for me...acting cool and scared of the mosquitos, the heat, hate the long boat ride..the lack of the utilities..we are just denying our origin. complaining of the hard life in the hometown..instead for me..better if they do something about that, than running away and pretending they are town people..come on la..never sounds cool to me..if u refused to celebrate the biggest celebration for our people with your old parent at your own origin, you are teaching your kids the same behaviour in the future.

but this time, it did upset me a bit...my family can't make it, going back to my 'kampung'.

for me, this celebration is not about having lots lots of alcoholic drinks, acting wild and stupid but most important, this is the time to spend with family, a time to reunite after being away from each other for the whole year. a time to appreciate our ancestry...a time to be proud of our culture..a very rich culture.

no matter how 'tall' you are now, always remember that, we are Iban..a Dayak..a proud and strong dayak that paved all this native land more than hundreds years before. i am so proud of it..but many that i know, is ashamed of they own origin too...well, too bad for them and a waste to have a member of our community that acting that way too..

last few days, i did manage to have dinner with some relatives, one is a very respectable man in our family because of his modesty and knowledge...and how i am very grateful that we were born from a very strong 'root'....this man told us..bact at 60's in Dalat area (my origin) a pair of slippers is a wealth to the kids. no scholl uniform for the students...even having a long pants is a pride to those kids at that time. tthey have to paddle or 'berkayuh' to get to school.

my own grandfather..had to sold most of his belonging just to get all of his children an education. just imagine that...how our kids by this day..and we ourselves as parent become ignorant to the fact that it was never easy to be at where we are today..that was our ancestors hardwork..so never ever ashamed and act like we are the king just because we have a terrace house at the town..because if our ancestors think the way we are now, we might not be as lucky and and as blessed as we are for today...

my new home..BINTULU

10/05/2010 Monday 12.22 noon

today is my 4th monday in bintulu..a still alien city to me. but i admit it, i'd felt in love with this place..the energy captivated me. the speed really are up to my level. since i started my job here, in an oil & gas construction company, i kind of opened up my eyes to many things that 've never really care or bothered to looked at before.

first, i really can see a lot of chances in career here. in business also..but its all still up to the individual.

a chance + determination + efforts = success.

in political view, i did notice some of intelligent group of people that is quite loud in their view. and honestly, that is what i like most.

intelligent people + belief + strong voice (non nonsense fact)

i am considering myself as lucky..i accepted this golden opportunity by sacrifying a little part of my family way of life, we (me & the kids) have to separate with my husband (working in Sibu division) but we agreed on 1 thing for these :

"its never an easy journey to get to the top."

so we compromised and here we are, me & the kids apart from my husband..of course we miss him all the time but the top priority now is the kids' future. we are very well aware, we are doing these for the sake of the children. and may God bless us for our intention.

first time, i need to rely on my own driving skills (for all this time i fully depended on my husband in driving) and i did some minor damage for the 1st 2 days i drove on my own..still, i am greatful for not hurting anyone (other than my own car).

the major issue now is to settle down at our own place. i reall don't like the fact that we are troubling my relative by staying temporarily with them. they are undeniable nice and generous but my nature never allowed me to become fully depended on others. only that to get a place to rent is very tough at this time.. with budget of RM500 monthly rental for a house i'm still not a lucky one in this.

but friends do help a lot by their suggestions. only that i really want to be careful on this and a lot of things to take into consideration into this matter. but i really hope that i will get something cozy and simple for us.

seeing the girls crying every morning i went out to work really killing me inside but i know very well that i need to be very strong or we might not going to make this out. but it just a wonderful sight to see their faces in the evening and when we play together before their bed time, i really felt blessed. they are my heritage..to nurture and taking care of..

in the other hand, my heart went out to my beloved hubby...for how many years, he had been pampered and everything was prepared for him, now he has to taking care of his own meal. not to mention the loneliness..but dear hubby, we are doint this together...and i truly believe in you and in us..that we can make it.

we do need to sacrifice more this time..unfortunately for us, the transportation cost for him to back and forward from bintulu-sibu is increased by this month. so again, there is another thing to take into calculation. but i still put my hope into his application to transfer here so that we will be a unit again.

life is hard before and so far we still can go through all this..and the keyword is "togetherness".

thanx to my current employment, for giving me this chance and believe in me. i am not going to make any excuses but just to focus and giving my effort to prove to myself that i am not a 'no' person.

may God bless our family in this journey and provide us with courage and strength for us to go further. for our kids, bless them for their health and i really am thankful for everything that is given to me.

women & abuse ....

that is what a friend share with me in my facebook this afternoon..well a subject that always make me talk a lot and a lot more...may be some of my friends already aware that i am one of those that always speak out loud regarding this issue..why? because so many women in our country here, still blindfolded to this issue and live with the reality being abused by their spouse @ husband....

now honey, we start with what is that? a common kindergarden question...hmmm..what does abuse mean?

check out all these sign in your partner (i know most will deny & make excuses for their partner);

(i) jealousy and possessiveness

(ii) controlling behaviour

(iii)verbal abuse

(iv)threats to harm you and anyone or anything that you love

(V)isolations from friends and family

so..anyone surprise by the answer?

just a Yes and No answers..did your partner have any of these behaviour? two would be enough to confirm...trust me..

now..for what i've seen and observed all this time, many women just ignored the fact that they were an abused victim ....i've seen so many of this women surrendered to these abusive behaviour without any knowledge that it is wrong! really really wrong...just because you were not hurt physically by your partner, it doesn't mean that it's okay to endured all of those silent and cold acts towards you...that's called abuse too honey....

to stand all the humiliation and cynic comment just to make you felt bad about yourself....to weaken your spirit so that you will not believe in your own ability to stand for what you believe...

any comment or acts that make you believe you were at fault in everything..they were all classified as abusal acts...

now, let us check those signs one by one...

(i)jealousy and possessiveness

~your partner will get enraged by other guy that smile to you on the streets or when you had lunch with your male coleague (and he kept on calling or texting you every 5 minutes to know whether you were finished your lunch or just to know your whereabout) and normally this will embarassed you and made your friends felt uneasy..

(ii)controlling behaviour

~when everything you did, you need to get his approval, he will poked his nose in everything you did, everyone you were out with or event in what you were wearing...you will felt like you'd betrayed him if you just ignored his remarks and went ahead with you own way...you will need to asked him in anything you plan or doing..if he said no, that was finaled..he will make you felt so helpless and so deep in guilt without his approval

(iii)verbal abuse

~your partner was so good in weaken your spirit..he will condemn anything you do that doesn't suit his need...he will crippled you with his language, killing your self esteem with his comment...in time you will believe that you are just as useless and weak as he said you were, this is not necessary in form of violent acts but this verbal abuse will kill you inside..slowly until you submit to his need only..sound scary huh...

(iv)threats to harm you and everyone or everything that you love

~this abuser will threaten you in any way that will make you feel insecure..so you will stay with him just that he won't hurting anyone that you love and he will want to be in-charge of your life and by threatening you, he can get you to say yes to anything he wanted..

(v)isolation from friends and family

~he never can fitted into your family, he wouldn't be happy with your friends...whenever you talk about getting together with your friends or family, he will get you a task that will restrained you from doing so...he will make you feel bad if you wanted to help any family or friends of you..he will always think bad of your family members intention and try to get you as far as you can from everyone that you felt at ease with....remember..you are more helpless if you are alone without any support..

now my ladies...what do you think of all these? still got any excuse for him?

you might not realise all these until now...do you? many women may be in a potentially abusive relationship and might not even know it...hmmm..another surprise..and when you know it..it's too late....

it's not new though for i am very sure that women are so good in denying and making excuses for their abuser...

another question is just this..why is that? are they so in need of that relationship? are they so in love with the man? or are they just love to be succumbed to this abuser....

but i did see some of this victim kind of like the idea of being loyal and good wife by agreeing to all the abusive treatment towards them...some did complaint and talked to others but still they can't get out or just never think of getting out of that situation...why is that?

-feeling scared of their abuser?

-feeling afraid of the idea in begin a new life alone?

-feeling insecure and don't trust anyone to give them any hand?

-or they really have no other place to turn to?

well i do think we should looked back to how the system can give any hope to all those victims that have courage to freed themselves;

(i)in Malaysia we have Jabatan Kebajikan and the court (judicial system) and the police department (the authority we call them).

(ii) to get protective order from the court the victim have to make police report and give a copy to jabatan kebajikan (you might want to prepare yourself of how this people that is going to handle your report will response to your situation)

-i've heard that a woman made police report against her threatening husband..and some laughed at her face....

(iii)only after Jabatan Kebajikan get the copy of report then they will help in getting the protective order from the judge..i'm not quite sure of the how the enforcement going to work here or whether its does work..but i will get this info (for my own knowledge if not for helping others)

still... the only one that can help those in this situation is themselves..no more denying, no more excuses for your abusive partner..;

no more..he is nice most of the time only when he......its actually my fault, i shouldn't do it knowing he didn't like @ approved of it..bla..bla..bla..

these men so clever and charming..they will pampered you with gifts and sweet words to bribe you...(it's not guilty or apologize)

verbal abuse is the earlier signs...when you make yourself used to this, the violent act will come at the later and for some it was too late and it can get you and your loved ones killed..anyone wanted to have more i can share with their one link that telling an experience of a woman that for us..she had done everything that was right to set herself and her family free from her abuser but still in the end..it claimed her teenage daughter's life...you don't want this to happen to you..i guarantee that...

untuk semua wanita di luar sana..sekiranya pasangan anda cemburu yang keterlaluan, mengongkong, di mana setiap apa yang anda lakukan, atau dengan siapa anda bergaul haruslah dipersetujui olehnya..maka itu adalah tanda tanda awal penderaan terhadap anda..sekiranya pasangan anda berkasar dengan anda (walau tidak meninggalkan tanda atau kecederaan), jangan lah membuat alasan untuk tindakan dia kerana sekiranya anda membenarkan ia berlaku untuk pertama kalinya, maka bagi pembuli, ia adalah tanda anda sanggup menerima penangan yang kedua dan seterusnya...anda fikir mereka ini sayang kepada anda? mungkin anda perlukan kamus yang lebih baik untuk definisi kasih sayang untuk anda..

ramai wanita di negara kita masih agak jahil tentang perkara ini..mungkin sebab yang terbesar adalah mereka menganggap tindakan mereka menerima penghinaan sebegitu rupa terhadap diri mereka adalah atas dasar kesetiaan dan keinginan untuk menjadi seorang isteri yang baik..mungkin anda harus berfikir, anda hanya punya satu nyawa dan tindakan untuk mendiamkan diri dan menerima segala perbuatan penderaan ini umpama membunuh diri dan anak anak anda...jangan letakkan diri anda di tempat yang terendah dengan menerima layanan buruk dan kata kata yang melemahkan semangat anda...

anak yang melihat ibunya didera oleh insan bergelar bapa juga akan mengalami kerosakan jiwa yang teruk..mereka akan tergugat dari segi keyakinan diri dan keupayaan mereka untuk bersosial juga akan terjejas..

jadi sekiranya anda tidak sayang dengan diri anda sendiri, mungkin sudah tiba saatnya anda mula fikirkan tentang orang yang sayang dan ambil berat tentang diri anda....

beritahu dan minta bantuan dari rakan rakan mungkin adalah langkah permulaan yang bagus dan bijak...sekiranya rakan yang anda minta bantuan ini tidak sanggup untuk membantu atas alasan tidak mahu terlibat, maka mereka bukanlah rakan yang sepatutnya untuk anda...

hubungi saya sekiranya anda keseorangan dalam perkara ini..mungkin tidak banyak yang saya mampu lakukan tetapi saya rasa banyak rakan rakan saya di luar sana yang saya kenali akan sanggup untuk menghulurkan bantuan...

~~remember my friends...you responsible for how the others treated you....~~

beauty @ cantik

wednesday 9.10pm

this evening i have done some poll finding at my facebook wall there about beauty @ in Bahasa Malaysia we say 'cantik'...

and the opinions are quite interesting if not much because people don't want to talk about serious things in their FB (from what i've seen). most people just like to having fun and when you ask ed about their opinion, somehow it kind of a burden to them..well i better satisfied with that less than 10 opinion collections..but i do appreciate these people who had share their view..thanx..


this is what we got ;


almost 90% (all women) stating that beauty for them represent inner beauty..meaning..kind hearted, nice behaviour etc...

one of my male friend said..of course what we first saw is the outlook..meaning the pretty face la..

one said..inner beauty is the most important..never judge the book by it's cover...


so...i just simplified that most people think that beautiful for them comes with kind heart, positive attitude towards others..simple..

well..to be honest? for me..may be 10% (or less) of us will try to check the background or the attitude of someone that we first saw before we decided that we are interested to know them more ..rite? especially in courtship law...its normal if we judge the book by its cover..it happen many times to me..even if i want to purchase a real book..heheh..i did check the cover illustration first, except for danielle steele and sidney shieldon books..they are everything i looked for in any book i wanted to read...


most boys will attracted to the outlook of the gals before they started sending you mails or call...only after that they can decide if the gals is nice enough...to be their girlfriend..and the girls knowing this will dress nicely, put on some make up to show off to the boys...plus the giggle..its works..;)

but for me...in my eyes..beautiful girls only looked beautiful if they can get my attention for what they said, how they reacted with people around them...it's come to smart or intelligent...a beauty queen wouldn't impressed me much until they passed the interview sect...cruel?..but that is what interest me...

in other way beauty does come with age..we called every child we see beautiful because of their innocence look, we found that teenagers look beautiful because of their energy and when we are over 30 and on our way into 40 years old, we feel beautiful because we have peace in ourselves, reality in having a stable career and happy family i guess...this is the time we feel more confident as we don't really need others opinion about our life and what we are doing..maturity and motherly looks always worked in amazed me..

special case such as Ziana Zain and Amy Mastura, our own mother and actress..they look so beautiful after having few kids and when the age increase..same thing with Hollywod mother too...Nicole Kidman look amazingly beautiful after given birth to her daughter Sunday Rose...

of course you might say that is because they have money to maintain they beauty..well may be that is one of the reason but really i've seen few of my friends, when they are happy with their family and marriage it did reflect on their skin and they looked just beautiful...

when people around you or close enough to you appreciate you as you are, you will tend to feel confident in carrying yourself gracefully...some women are not that beautiful as we call it but they are so smart and confident in presenting themselves to others..contras to some women that is kind of loud, confident with themselves but people might have smirk on their face because of the negative way they carrying their attitude in a social community...

i used to heard some friends said; too bad the attitude covered the beauty face..well, it did mean something right?

so my dear friends..its true i think that inner beauty is the main factor..want to look good, be smart..want to look graceful, be nice and sincere to others around you..want to FEEL beautiful, make peace with yourself...;)


sharon stone..the sexy, hot actress of Hollywood got her 1st place in my list of beauty..at the age of 15 she received scholarship and graduate from Edinboro Unversity fron Pennsylvania in writing and fine arts, a MENSA member and her IQ is 154..what more a woman want..;) the look? do i need to comment?

voices..

good morning...this is my second blog for open discussion. and i really want to write in english but i know my english is not that good too. thanks to some friends that willing to help, suggesting few bloggers to follow..like i always said, i always interested in learning new things and people. may be for some, blogging is an old idea but for me, i am a baby...even to change the layout took me 3 days already and still i can't get the new outlook that i really felt in love with in the web. so frustrating..but somehow, i think i will manage because mind you, i am the one that never ever going to give up in anything..well almost anything because i also don't like to wasting my time in something that i know from the start would not worth it to try too hard..

i read about the most famous blogger from singapore last few days in The Star and i tried to had a peek into her blog..wow..really this lady got my attention..not to mention the look..chinese with blonde hair but mostly of course, I attracted to her writing..the blog is so girly in style but for me what I like most is the way she is being so bold in her blog and honest too..

I read about the cab driver story and what she wrote strucked me..yes..she was 110% rite..if it someone that we know or someone that we thought is interesting enough for us to have our attention asking us that question, I think we will never think that way (she thought the 50 yrs old something cab driver was trying to flirt when he asked about her blonde hair) or maybe we will love the attention..rite?

i did go through kenny sia's blog, from kuching. well..i really admire the energy despite the 'tame' (like he said) effort. very interesting though for I always think that the same sensitivity sometimes does slow us down..especially those ambitious youngsters with energetic opinion and ideas..our government is democracy but still in term of voicing out our ideas, we feel a bit strained..

in a way kenny's blog is very fresh in his presentation..good for young active mind..the ads for his gym..for me is quite fun but sorry for him too it was rejected by our local newspaper..well you can post your ads here kenny..anytime..for free..

I always into anyone with bright ideas and strong voice..because for me, this is how it should be..voice out and heard out..then its up to the audience..of course in our country we have to get our mouth 'insured' or else you can't afford the legal cost..

those that afraid of these strong voices in my opinion are those that afraid to let go of the past..the chauvinism type of people that think they always rite and is not to be corrected by anyone..you think..this will bring us a step in the front or a step back?

then there are some people that is so aggressive in their response towards any comment..people that think they are so powerful & untouchable..you say something bout them..you will see them in the news tonight, picketing against you and what you said and a stack of police reports will be made against you..so back to the square..what democracy?

I think I better stop now or else I end up putting my name on the banner in their picket..;) mind my grammar my friends and any suggestion, my arm is wide open for you.. any helping hand for me in my learning process for blogging will very much appreciated..see you guys..