i just read a post written by my favourite blogger Xia Xue..she talked about Singaporean men and described some as 'disturbingly crude, uncivilised, pervetic, horny, bitter bla..bla..bla..and i managed to read only half of it and i really understand what did she mean by all her writing. well, as a woman my self i also furiated by what she exposed in her blog.
bur lets not elaborate more on it..i just want to talk about what kind of men does a woman want for their partner.
honestly, not much a woman can find in a man but we, women just very tolerate mankind..we used to feel blessed with so little so we do not ask for more that what given to us.
From what i really could see, a woman doesn't really care about their partner look, that is why honey, we often see a girl ...beautiful girl with a not very good looking guy. some girls like the dangerous type of men..meaning the man might be look harsh or sometimes ruthless..pardon my selection of words but its true..
once i have a girlfriend that is having an affair with a married man. this so called boyfriend have a wife (of course..he is married ma..) and 3 kids in row...but this friends of mine managed to stay with this guy for more than 3 years (mind you...) without the knowledged of the wife. she (my friend) for me, considered to be a nice looking girl and come from a good family background but when i asked her why she choosed to be with the guy, her answer is.."don't know..i just feel very attracted to him, in a way, i like the danger and risks to be with him..it makes us felt bonded.."
that was i think 7-8 years back..now i am not sure if they are still together..i hope the best for her..
hmmm..young girls like being with married man...why is that? well i can guarantee you this one my friends...girls like matured men. yessss...they did..this type of man know what girls really want, how they want to be treated, what words they want to hear, what gifts they like...
in our country, when the man is aged 20-30 they considered young and immature..if you are not lucky enough, at the age of 25 and your boyfriend is 26, you still look at him as your younger brother..but mentally, girls are far more advance in thinking. this century of girls or women, they just do not want to taking care of their man anymore but they in reverse want to be taking care of. well..you cant expect your 'young brother' to taking care of you right? but really, some guys are just extraordinary..even if they are young and immature, they willing to learn and sometimes, the relationship does help a lot..teaching the value of life and they can accept the responsibilities of becoming a place to lean on for their partner. but some...this is the main group, sorry to say never see things beyond their girls butt..(ooppss..anybody hurts?)
never surprise me...when the couple hang out together for more than 5 years where the girl getting older and worrying about her ticking ovulation clock, some guys just still playfull as they use to be and "no..not yet..still not ready for the commitment.." well, hon...if you are not ready, then just let off the girl and let the ready guy have her..fair isn't it? why you want her to wait for your gen to get old?
enough about married and matured men...this type of men in reversal very..very..annoying to most of the ladies ..(maybe the compatible one won't have any problem with this type thou..) the loudspoken type..
huhuhaha..telling others their greatness, they 'hight pitch' profile with girls is very 'saleable' in their opinion..but sorry guys..we are closed for this kind of human being not to say a man for us to rely on...:(
i'd once heard a man, in his stupor, stupid act bla..bla..talking big about his talent with girls, telling everyone how girls really attracted to him, how he can easily get a girl, anytime, anywhere he wanted it..but dear..untill now, you are solo bah...maybe you can get girls easily but a wife nope..excuse me..no wife will tolerate the big mouth (i think..hehehe)
about an hour with his loud voice, his saliva drooling his mouth, telling us he made tenth thousand of money and business...wow..but still, he is the guy that i used to saw sitting at the coffee shop, alone every morning untill noon, driving his old cabuk car and living in a rented house..more talk man..this..really to avoid this kind of people.
stingy guys...hmm..this is the type that we can easily recognise...watch out girls..he might split your drinks and cinema tickets between you guys..but for some, its ok..;) he will not call you but he will misscall you then you need to call him back..funny ha..but do not confuse of these 2, stingy and money saving type. the later may be can do some good to you but just draw the limit for your own benefit. if he save all his money but expensed all on yours..say bye ..
branded guys...well, got some hint on this? this type will very nice to look at, very stylish and macho but carefull...check his job and the level of the income. from my own experience, this kind of guy, dress handsomely, Levi's jeans, Polo shirt but when he asked you out, he borrowed from his friends...but it does make a different if his job get his 5-10K a month..below that, plus the classy car, and the credit card, he might not afford to support himself..let alone a wife..get as far as you can from this type..
lazy and not hygiene type..err..you might want to stay away from this guy...lazy + dirty..errkss..nothing worst lel..noticed him wearing the same shirt 2 or 3 days in arow and the smell is a bit disturbing and the bad breath??? run for help...
casanova..what can i say...beware of sweet talking guy, know very well how to place the bait, say all the right things, all the times, too good to be true..hmm..holding your hand in front of your family members and friends, smokey eyes and he can get away everytime he did something wrong..stop it there, you can't and never will able to handle him..trust me...
normally if you hang out with this type of guy, you can sense something is a bit fishy about his attitude but, you always brushed it aside for he is so good at his act, some not very strong women felt in the trap..
i think that will make it for some of the negative side..but lets share the about the good guy type, the type that we easily fit in with, the type that won't give you any headache and the one that you can trust to bear a child for him.
only one i like very mush of this 'strong relation couple' (i like to call it that way..) they have get through a lot in their life, they have stumble and get up from the bad time together,they have seen each other in their lowest point of life...in short form, they knew each other very well, they close because they suffer together not because they partying and drunk together.
as a woman..the key to this kind of relationship is, a man that is simple in his life, a moderate and humble man, know what he should brag about and when he should lend his shoulder..he will never complaining of your weaknesses and disdvantage but he will support you when you felt you are the unluckiest person on earth. this man will look at you and be proud having you in his life, this man will defend you when others sees the only bad thing about you. this man is your true friend, the only one you can rely on during your bad time.
you will feel at ease everytime you are with him, you do not feel like you need to pretend and hide anything from him..you can voice out your opinion to him and he won't take that you are thinking of underestimate him..the one that willing to learn together the value of relationship ...the one that when you think of him, whenever he is away, you heart beating like hell..the one that make you feel appreciated..
maybe some will say i am ridiculous but i think i've found mine...just don't take everything i'd shared here as whole world opinion..sometime the glass to others might be a diamond to you...
to all of ladies out there..there must be someone for you..never rush anything but just go with the flow and everything will fall into it place. until mynext writing..good to share with you, thank you for your support and LOVE each other like there is no tommorro...;)
Salam...
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